How do you mend a broken heart?

2 years, 7 months ago 3
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Another Bee Gee’s song….you’d think I was stuck in the 70s….and no, I don’t have a disco outfit….although I admit the glitter does appeal to me.

If you have followed the blog since the beginning or even a few installments you would know about the physical and emotional energy, time, our own money paying our vet and foster expenses, that we put into saving lives.

Each rescue is vet checked, vaccinated and spay/neutered if age appropriate and we all know how expensive that is. Our adoption donations do not cover our expenses. We fundraise ourselves with volunteers making items to sell, purchase the materials (with the exception of our cat toys which Cathy, Lorraine and Janet so generously supply), deliver and replenish at our depots. That money off sets our vet and foster expenses. Of course, it does not pay for our time nor our gas. We freely donate that to the rescue.

So it is particularly frustrating when adopters do not give us a donation for their cat. We have 2 recent ones now. We believed that we could trust the women despite what the board had agreed (donation upon adoption – due to past experiences), and we adopted out the cats to them. This was over 2 months ago. Both cats were spay/neutered at our expense. Both required veterinary and nursing care and medications as they too were suffering from upper resp. Both were fed and sheltered, worried over and loved.  One was also nursed by us going to the home when buffer mom was out of town. Promises of a donation made – nothing received. Nothing. Excuses made. Texts and phone calls are ignored. At least return our crate.

Money is not easy to come by these days and our donors give so generously and often sacrificially because they believe in what we do.  It just makes me very angry that people take advantage of a rescue.

Where does the “broken heart” come in?

Over the past 5 years, Marlys has buffered hundreds of cat – most being pregnant moms, moms with babies. Although it is a happy time, she has endured so much heart ache as many kittens have died. Causes sometimes are unknown but many due to upper resp, disease and results of a malnourished mom…. Devastating to invest so so much and then to find a dead kitten. She remembers them all and each precious one, no matter how small, takes a piece of her heart – and yesterday, another one.

Despite it all we…she carries on. It is just maddening that those adoptive parents do not value what we do.  Broken hearts and for me, broken trust, anger and disgust.

I think I need to cuddle my rescue babies for good energy before heading out to help feed some of our kittens in care.

 

3 Responses

  1. Lorraine says:

    AMEN 🙂

    IT IS SO UNFORTUNATE THAT THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD, THAT STILL FEEL ENTITLED. MOST WOULD SAY IT IS THE “YOUNGER & ME GENERATION” THAT THIS APPLIES TO. I HAVE SEEN THIS BEHAVIOUR WITH MY OWN EYES BECAUSE I WORKED IN A EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTE FOR 35 YEARS…..AND TOWARDS THE END OF ALL THOSE YEARS IT BECAME APPARENT THAT THE CHILDREN COMING UP THROUGH THE RANKS FELT THAT A LOT OF THINGS IN LIFE WERE OWED TO THEM.
    THEY HAVE NO IDEA WHAT RESPONSIBILITY IS….WHAT IT MIGHT COST TO RAISE A CHILD, RUN A HOUSEHOLD, OWN A PET. THEY DON’T CARE WHAT IT MIGHT COST…..THEY JUST KNOW THAT THEY WANT IT……..AND THEY WERE GOING TO TAKE IT. BEING A RESPONSIBILE PET OWNER…..LOVING, CARING, FEEDING AND VETTING IF NEED BE…..ALL COSTS MONEY. KITTY KARE PEOPLE DO ALL OF THIS OUT OF THEIR OWN POCKET…..OUT OF THE GOODNESS OF THEIR HEARTS, (WHICH BY THE WAY, ARE REGULARLY BROKEN) ESPECIALLY WITH THE NEEDLESS DEATHS OF KITTENS BORN TO MOMS THAT WERE ABANDONED BY THEIR HEARTLESS OWNERS THAT DID NOT CARE TO HAVE THEM ALTERED TO PREVENT A PREGNANCY. KITTY KARE PEOPLE HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR 5 YEARS NOW AND HAVE SAVED MANY, MANY CATS/KITTENS. THEY ASK FOR NOTHING IN RETURN OTHER THAN A DONATION TO HELP THEM COVER SOME OF WHAT THEY PAY OUT OF THEIR OWN POCKETS!!!!!
    STILL SOME FEEL THAT THEY ARE ENTITLED TO THIS BEAUTIFUL, AFFECTIONATE, LIVING BEING…..AND
    NOT CONTRIBUTE ONE RED CENT……NOT BE RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY OF THE COST????
    I ASK YOU, HOW DO YOU LIVE WITH THIS ON YOUR CONSCIOUS???
    HOW DO YOU SLEEP AT NIGHT WITH THAT KITTY PURRING IN YOUR EAR, KNOWING THAT YOU SIGNED A CONTRACT TO BE RESPONSIBLE? ??
    TELL ME PLEASE……..KITTY KARE NEEDS YOUR HELP……..THINK ABOUT IT……?

  2. Phyllis says:

    I think that these two individuals should be ashamed of themselves. They didn’t have to pay for spaying or neutering which costs a fair amount and then take advantage of Kitty Kare. You should be grateful for your new family member and donate for their care like you agreed to. They do so much in caring for all these wonderful animals and I hope you will help out as well.

  3. Michelle says:

    I do think it would be truly frusterating when you do not get a donation. This comes as a suprise as you do not as a specific amount. Every little bit helps. You job/ volunteer work comes with many emotional turmoil and expenses.
    You are making a difference for both cat and people.if it wasn’t for you i myself would not have found my true fur baby. I could not imagine life without her. Once being a dog person but loved all pets. I have fallen in love my gentle and loving cat. She has broughten so much love and happiness into both me husbands and my life. I could not believe someone abandoned such a loving cat especially gaving babies.
    Tke the time to know that you make a fifference. Many. Cats have loving homes and are loved. Your organization have rescued many cars. Thank you for bringing our cat into ourlives.

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